Dear Mr. Elevator Man

Listen .... We get it Sis! WE ....GET.....IT!! The men you have dated over your ENTIRE life time have been TRASH. You do not have to remind us every few weeks. But I want to let you in on a little secret that you might not know umkay? ALL MEN AREN'T TRASH! Whew! I'm so glad I was able to let you in on that secret. Feel better? I do! Honestly though I'm over the man bashing on social media. I'm not sure if ya'll think rallying together on the "men aren't shit" trip is going to help you find a good man or even have one approach you but ummm .. it's not helping your situation. No matter how much you talk about oh I'm staying single forever, I don't need a man, I'm so happy to be in my bed knowing a man ain't cheating on me, you talk ... I BET YOU A MILLION DOLLARS THAT I DON'T HAVE ... when that right man comes around all that talk will change. Right hand to God, the aliens, and ancestor I do NOT want to be single. That si...

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. Recently we started talking about moving in together and I brought up marriage. She brushed off the question and I really paid it no mind. As we started going to look at rental places, I wanted more rooms than she and when she asked me why I brought up future kids and marriage. She laughed at me and said who said I was going to marry you. Honestly this took me back and hurt my feelings. I guess she noticed it and tried to "please" me later that night. Yes it was great sex, but I was still mad about what she said. This is her way of "hoping I don't bring it up again." We were deciding on what place to pick and I asked her what did she think about getting married in the next year or so. We both are stable, great jobs and in our early 30s. She said she doesn't know if she wants to marry me. I asked her why and she couldn't give me an explanation. I thought about it over the weekend and that following Mon...

Who started this cooking for your man is something that only wives do and not girlfriends? Do ya'll smoke crack? I'm convenience you early-mid 20 somethings smoke crack. I've seen a meme rolling around social media where the man says he wants to see his girl like this (she's cooking in underwear ... which leads to a whole 'notha story. Like I hope she not frying NATHAN!! Because baby bout to get burnt up trying to be cute.) and the girl replies "this is wife level package, you can upgrade your girlfriend package by buying a ring. He couldn't be me. STARVE THEN BIH! Listen .... follow me umkay? 1. NONE OF YA'LL (me included) makes enough money to eat at a restaurant everyday where the food is that damn bomb! Like you gone be eating Applebee's happy hour on the 4th day! AAANNDDDD ain't NOBODY trying to take yo bap ass out to eat EVERYDAY. Hoe I got bills to pay! Say it with me now ... I'mmmm oooonnnn aaaaaaa bbbuuuddddggggeeettt!!! ...

Hi guys! I wish to leave my name out of this for the protection of the other people in this story incase this goes viral. These days it seems anything might just go. My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years. We recently got engaged Summer 2017. My fiancé has a 7 year old and although he says his baby mother is crazy, I have met her and think she is quite sane to me. My fiancé gets upset when she calls for things but honestly it's all for the betterment of their child. Recently her car broke down, she called to see if he could help her get it fixed and he said no. We had a really heated argument about this because he doesn't see how her car not being able to get fixed hurts their child more. He always falls back on the "she better call her man(which she doesn't have one) or she better call her parents). She was not able to get her car fixed and lost her job. Last month she called him crying because she was being evicted from her apartment and since her car h...

I'm fresh into my marriage. Will be two years this year, but I have been with my now husband for 14 years. Lawd, that makes me feel old. Now I enjoy being married. LLLOOVVEEEE IT! But ummmmmrraaaahhhuuuhhhhh, let's talk about married people advice. I'm not saying "all married people" but I've notice that married people LLOOVVEEE to give you the  "I'm up here and your down there" advice. Or they give you the "right, holy" answer. Like bih I'll still give you a two piece! Tell me that I need to leave Jaquan ass alone because he only act right in the winter. Tell me what you would've told me 6 months ago before you got married. I am WORTH MORE! Don't hit me with a bible verse, don't hit me with an I'll pray for you, don't try to tell me this is in God's plan, don't tell me how to keep a man, or why my man ain't acting right... again YOU JUST GOT MARRIED LESS THAN 5 YEARS AGO! I know ya'll ...

Dear Shanice, My name is Rose. Currently I was dating an older male and he was recently divorced. He told me that him and his ex wife grew apart. That he stopped finding  her attractive and soon the love went left. He said he hated her style of fashion, and so forth. Because I thought this was going to be my husband, I found his wife's social media accounts and made sure I was to complete opposite of what she was. I'm not going to lie, she was a very attractive older lady and her style was not bad at all. So I kicked my fashion up a few notches, started wearing more heels, more make up, switching up my hair styles and he loved it. After a few months of dating, he told me he loved me and once my lease was up on my apartment we should move in together. The thing is I had just signed a new lease so that was gonna be at least a year. I told him I could just buy out of it but he said no, a year would give us more time to get closer and you never know what would happen. He said an...

I was going to start back blogging at the top of the year - but thought I'd give one more before 2015 leaves. A little recap/encouragement, I guess that's what we can call this. In 2015 - I left my job. Like my real ass, 730-430, get paid every 1st & 15th, this is your set salary job. It's still pretty surreal - but yes I did. I started a business with my fiance catering. Scared shitless isn't even the beginning of what I felt. Read that here . I am still running that business right now. I have two other businesses that I started a few years ago and ............ well yeah that's it. Time management is a real issue for your girl. Like FRFR .. BUT I still operate them .... just not as often as I would like. So that's my goal for 2016 - all three need to bringing in more income than it is now. Did I mention it's 2:50am ,, and I have a real estate shoot in the morning? Ah well .. A lot of people ask me about starting a business. After I blank sta...

Send me your reader letters at sbarrett3289@gmail.com   Dear Shanice,  I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year . Over the last past few months he has started to ask me things to do to him sexually. At first it was no problem but now I'm uncomfortable and concerned. In the heat of the moment one night, my guy asked me to stick a finger in he's butt. I was so thrown off but again we were making love so I did it. I didn't really think about it but it instantly turned him on, so it turned me on too. He asked me a few more times, and I did it. I just wrote it off to him being super freaky, because we gets it in. A month ago he asked me to add more fingers and I told him I didn't want too. He got a attitude and came before me and left my house. I was so shocked at how upset he got. I called him and told him I was uncomfortable doing that and he said he wanted me to stick 4 fingers in he's butt. If I really "loved" him, I would do it because it gets...

Today I officially leave the corporate working world. LAWDDDD HELP ME!!! I went back and forth on whether I wanted to share this with others or not, and said hell why not! I'm not sharing er'thang - but - I can give you a little bit umkay!!  First let's get into this BEAT! That lash got my eye looking a little like it's off that purp but thats neither here nor there. :) I'm also really starting to embrace these big ass eyes of mine. BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT THIS POST IS ABOUT ... So today is my last day at my current job. I am leaving because my fiance started a business as well as helping with other people visions as well. No lie - a bih nervous as hell - but I am excited as shit! People at work have been asking me how I prepared myself to leave and truth be told I don't know how I did it. You want to plan everything and make sure everything is in place before you leave - but sometimes it doesn't happen that way. I was pushed into having to resign. LIT...

Heeellllloooo Ladies! HHEEELLLLLOOOO. How are ya'll doing toniigghhhtttt? FFFIINNEEE. Can I keep it rrrreeeaallllll? YYYYEESSS. And say what's on my mind? ... What cha'll know about that!!! THROWBIKE! 

So I received an update from the wife that is sleeping with her husbands nephew. I really just want her to tell her husband. At this point there is no marriage to save. I am not married yet but I know for a FACT if my soon to be husband has a baby with someone else; it's over. At this point in your life you made the commitment to love, respect and cherish me. Stepping outside of our marriage is showing me that you do not care about me or these vows we took. If you are in a relationship and the other person moves out; you need to figure out if you can work it out or if it's time to let it go. DO NOT bring a third person into your marriage and wreck havoc. - Shanice

Grab a glass, this is going to be a long ride today.

ELLEEELLLOOOOO!!!!! I'm wondering where has the love gone?

Nina :  I haven't been out of this hotel since it happened. I miscarried. This is a bunch of words together because I can't seem to get my words together. I hate when people say, oh well you weren't that far along. Well I say FUCK YOU! 

Dear Sandra from Wal-Mart, Today would have been the day that I would've realized a few things. 1.My pants have not touched my shoes in a while, because you are flooding for life girl .. 2. This headband I have on doesn't match SHIT I'm wearing and 3. WalMart does NOT pay me enough to resist whooping this lady ass on site right now. Sandra girl .. I don't know how you just let this lady in the self check out curse you out like this and you just walked away. Listen here .. Wal-Mart does not pay ANYBODY enough to not knock this lady up side her head. See this would've been the time I would've been behind the register like " ma'am, I'm not about to be to many more bitches before I been knocked yo ass into another line ya'hear?" But again, that's just me. Futhermore you gone let the lady checking out with the food-stamp card, bring out a wad of cash and tell You .. Yes You Sandra girl .. that she can make it rain on ya ass. I mean r...

YYYYAASSSSS ..... If you do not follow me on social media then you do not know bbbuuttttt I got ENGAGED YESTERDAY!!!!!! 

And if you guessed it was my birthday .... YOU WERE RIGHT! That eyelash was on FFLLLEEEEKKK that day. Ok, it was really on it's last leg but whatever I was still cute. Well today is the day that the Lord said ... LET GREATNESS BE BORN! And Here I am :) 26 years later.  So I am 26 .. GAH DAMN the pressure is really on to get my life together. Side note : Why was I crip walking to the baby Einsteins theme song? I'm so shame. ANYWHO! I always thought by 25 I would be a working lawyer, married with my first baby on the way. Well listen here .. I am a college drop out, found my career ( that I LOVE ) in logistics, not married ( but very happy ) with no kids. I'm truly happy and blessed this birthday. Now on to a few RRRAANNNDDDOOMMMMM. I know y'all love when I speak ratchet. LOL. 1. Why does dry grinding turn you women on? Like I saw this clip of Chris Brown humping the air and the comment section was tew murch. Like you know he isn't going to fuck y...

Welcome! Let me tell you right now I am not in the mood umkay?! I haven't been blogging because my job has me SKKRRREEEESSSSEEEEDDDDD AAAAHHHHHTTTTT ( in my plies voice). I literally just want to sleep when I get home. Unfortunately I end up getting dragged out the house anyways, and honestly that's a good thing. So I'm going to ease back in this thang and I have some surprises/changes happening in March for the blog. Anywho let's get to what I want to talk about today .... 1. Natural Hair isn't for Er'body .....

HHHHEEYYYYHHHOOOO!! Remember Brittany from Pregnant by my Youth Director?   Well Miss Ma'am has emailed me back with a follow up and I am LIVID!! I am now personally talking to her because this is just wrong. This blog has become a way bigger thing than me and if you write me, I'm going to help you. Her issue has so many topics I want to speak about, and I will, but for right now I'm just trying to open her eyes. Dear Miss Shanice, I told my mom and she was pretty upset. I have been talking to HIM and he really hasn't been supportive. He won't answer my calls and completely ignores me in church. I texted him what did I do to him to make him treat me like this and he said, not getting an abortion. That really mad me upset so I went and told my mom who the baby of my unborn child was. She didn't believe me until I showed her a message from him. I thought she would be upset about reading the abortion part but she was just mad at me for being a "stupid gi...