Dear Mr. Elevator Man

So I had this whole blog written out in the shower about 30 minutes ago. For some strange reason I have been staring at this screen for 10 minutes with nothing to type. First let's talk about me, then we'll talk about you. Many of you do not follow me on social media but I am currently 37 weeks pregnant, still married, with a 20 month old. This second baby was NOT planned and honestly threw me into a world wind of emotions from day one when I found out. You can really prepare everything you need/want for your baby but still not be mentally ready. I, for one, am just now starting to get there. For the past few months I have been struggling with depression. I mean it was really bad. I didn't talk about it with anyone because honestly I did not want to hear any of the following : 1. You need to just go to church and pray about it. - FYI mental health is not something your pastor can scripture away. 2. You aren't the first person to have two babies back to back. - I ...

Listen .... We get it Sis! WE ....GET.....IT!! The men you have dated over your ENTIRE life time have been TRASH. You do not have to remind us every few weeks. But I want to let you in on a little secret that you might not know umkay? ALL MEN AREN'T TRASH! Whew! I'm so glad I was able to let you in on that secret. Feel better? I do! Honestly though I'm over the man bashing on social media. I'm not sure if ya'll think rallying together on the "men aren't shit" trip is going to help you find a good man or even have one approach you but ummm .. it's not helping your situation. No matter how much you talk about oh I'm staying single forever, I don't need a man, I'm so happy to be in my bed knowing a man ain't cheating on me, you talk ... I BET YOU A MILLION DOLLARS THAT I DON'T HAVE ... when that right man comes around all that talk will change. Right hand to God, the aliens, and ancestor I do NOT want to be single. That si...

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. Recently we started talking about moving in together and I brought up marriage. She brushed off the question and I really paid it no mind. As we started going to look at rental places, I wanted more rooms than she and when she asked me why I brought up future kids and marriage. She laughed at me and said who said I was going to marry you. Honestly this took me back and hurt my feelings. I guess she noticed it and tried to "please" me later that night. Yes it was great sex, but I was still mad about what she said. This is her way of "hoping I don't bring it up again." We were deciding on what place to pick and I asked her what did she think about getting married in the next year or so. We both are stable, great jobs and in our early 30s. She said she doesn't know if she wants to marry me. I asked her why and she couldn't give me an explanation. I thought about it over the weekend and that following Mon...

Hi guys! I wish to leave my name out of this for the protection of the other people in this story incase this goes viral. These days it seems anything might just go. My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years. We recently got engaged Summer 2017. My fiancé has a 7 year old and although he says his baby mother is crazy, I have met her and think she is quite sane to me. My fiancé gets upset when she calls for things but honestly it's all for the betterment of their child. Recently her car broke down, she called to see if he could help her get it fixed and he said no. We had a really heated argument about this because he doesn't see how her car not being able to get fixed hurts their child more. He always falls back on the "she better call her man(which she doesn't have one) or she better call her parents). She was not able to get her car fixed and lost her job. Last month she called him crying because she was being evicted from her apartment and since her car h...

I'm fresh into my marriage. Will be two years this year, but I have been with my now husband for 14 years. Lawd, that makes me feel old. Now I enjoy being married. LLLOOVVEEEE IT! But ummmmmrraaaahhhuuuhhhhh, let's talk about married people advice. I'm not saying "all married people" but I've notice that married people LLOOVVEEE to give you the  "I'm up here and your down there" advice. Or they give you the "right, holy" answer. Like bih I'll still give you a two piece! Tell me that I need to leave Jaquan ass alone because he only act right in the winter. Tell me what you would've told me 6 months ago before you got married. I am WORTH MORE! Don't hit me with a bible verse, don't hit me with an I'll pray for you, don't try to tell me this is in God's plan, don't tell me how to keep a man, or why my man ain't acting right... again YOU JUST GOT MARRIED LESS THAN 5 YEARS AGO! I know ya'll ...

Dear Shanice, My name is Rose. Currently I was dating an older male and he was recently divorced. He told me that him and his ex wife grew apart. That he stopped finding  her attractive and soon the love went left. He said he hated her style of fashion, and so forth. Because I thought this was going to be my husband, I found his wife's social media accounts and made sure I was to complete opposite of what she was. I'm not going to lie, she was a very attractive older lady and her style was not bad at all. So I kicked my fashion up a few notches, started wearing more heels, more make up, switching up my hair styles and he loved it. After a few months of dating, he told me he loved me and once my lease was up on my apartment we should move in together. The thing is I had just signed a new lease so that was gonna be at least a year. I told him I could just buy out of it but he said no, a year would give us more time to get closer and you never know what would happen. He said an...

HHHHHHHHHHIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!! I been gone for a minute now I'm back with the jump off. So the baby is OUT! The marriage has hit it's first year mark! NAW WHA GIRL! I have been asking myself that for that last week now. Today my little sweet baby is in his swing and mama has actually COOKED DINNER! Ya'll I done cookeded a meal! Like a meat and two sides type meal. I'm proud LOL! A few weeks ago I would be hoovering over him watching him sleep. Anywho - back to the question. What am I to do now that baby is out!?  GET TO THIS SHAMONEY IS WHAT!! Having my son didn't give me a surge of "I gotta get get iittt" (s/o to Jeezy) but it did give me a surge in a timeline. I have always said I want to buy my first house at this age, have this much done by this age and honestly all that moved up a few years now. It feels super weird getting back into business mode now with my son b/c quick jobs I used to do - I now need to find a reliable sitter that can be...

Dear Shanice, First congratulation on your marriage and baby. My name is Breneesha and I am currently pregnant. My baby daddy and I did not plan on getting pregnant and it seems like as soon as I took the test our relationship went to shit. We were living together but he has basically moved out. We have never talked about having kids but we have been together a little over a year. I might see him once a week, and when I ask him where he is going or staying he literally ignores me and leaves. Last week I packed up all of his clothes and told him that he could leave for good and not come back. He is listed on the lease and still pays half the bills. He told me he wasn't going anywhere and once the baby was born he would be back staying full time. Full time? What does that mean? I told him I have basically went through this pregnancy alone and I am fine being a single mom. I have made my mind up that I am going to move into a one bedroom and live alone. I don't know what he is ...

Danny, Straight to the point, I am in love with a stripper. This is dumb as hell but I love her. We are bumping heads because I do not want her to strip anymore. She thinks I'm ashamed of her but I just ain't trying to think about another nigga looking at my girl naked. We have only been dating a short amount of time but I feel like she can stop stripping and I will take care of her. She's 21 and I'm 33. I have my own house, two cars, and a very well paying job. I'm not a baller but I live well enough were she can pursue other dreams that she has. I've already told her if she continues to strip when the holidays come around, we will be over. I just need some advise on how to get her to stop stripping and let a real man take care of her. Broham, This is not an extremely hard question. My first thought is to ask you did you meet her in the strip club? But that's neither here nor there. What I will tell you is that you have to ultimately understand what ...

Ya'll ... they locked a playa UP!!!!! They tried to keep a real G down!!! They tried to hold this black woman BACK!! Let me tell ya'll what had happened ..... So in March I had an accident. I thought I hit the man but after explaining it to everybody, it seems he might have hit me. All I know is I was trying to see around a curb. I pulled up a little and saw him truck fly by. I stopped but he kept going and his card took the side of my car with him. So panicking me - I just wrote that I hit him. EITHER WAYYYYYYY - the police came, got all out information, INSURANCE INFO ( remember this part ) and sent us on our way. Mind you Geico still ain't fixed my shit .... and it's May .... but that's another story. I also got a ticket earlier that week - that week was like the worst. I hadn't had a wreck or gotten a ticket in 10 years, broke that record that week I tell ya. Any whooossss .... my soon to be mother in law told me to go up there and ask for driving sch...

Right now at this very moment, my ears are bleeding from my niece high pitch- tone deaf singing .... I just wanted to let ya'll know that .... Yeah Yeah I'm not back but I'm posting today. Actually I have a lot of "draft" post that I could set free but I want to go back through and re write them. So let's just talk about me and my life on this here Saturday!! 1. The last week in March and the first week in April have been HELL!! I got a ticket and had an accident a smooth week apart from each other. Mind you - I haven't had either in 10 years. My soul cried out F THE PO PO .. No for real ... The police parked his motocycle between some trees on a side road and was standing at the edge of another road in all black flagging people down. -__- ... Bih this is not hide-n-seek!! Just know DPD ran off on the plug twice with all those people they pulled over that day. I hate sneaking shit like that. We not even gone talk about the accident. 2. I am 10...

I debated on writing this post ... and said why not! I haven't posted in a while and honestly the altercation bothered me a day later.  Come on in and let's talk! So my little brother and I went to Chillis to grab a drink and some wings. Here in Decatur,Al they have 60 cent wings. Pair that with $2 margarita and bbbaaayyybbeeeee we were having a time! So in front of me sat three people ( Hope, Megan, and Josh *waves* ) that I went to high school with. As my brother and I are enjoying our company we can CLEAR AS DAY here them talking shit about a lot of my class mates. I roll my eyes and text my home girls like I really hope they don't say anything about you guys because I'm going to come undone in here. One thing I do not play about are my super loyal ass friends. In my mind I was already going to contact the people they were talking about and let them know .. AYE BRUH watch your back and your business around these three. Now some may say that is messy but I don...

Dear Shanice, My name is Amber and I am 20. I have been dating my husband since I was 16 and we have been married for 3 months. We have one child and I am pregnant now. Recently my husband and I bought a house and two new trucks. My husbands credit isn't so good so I put everything in my name and my husband gave me the down payments. My husband is a welder and he is 30 years old. I am a stay at home mom and I am in college to become a hair stylist. I want to open a salon one day. After we got married my husband started being very distant and working a lot of overtime. I don't see him a lot and when he is home he is always attached to his phone. The other day my cousin came over and showed me all these profiles of my husband on dating sites. He has a separate instagram, and facebook page from the one that I know of. I went through his phone and saw him texting girls his penis and girls sending him naked photos. He was taking these girls out and meeting up with them at hotels. ...

So listen, I am a very dramatic person. I have come to terms with this in 2016. I have some pretty crazy " So That Time I Thought I Was Going To Get Kidnapped " Stories ... let's hop into one umkay! I used to live in an apartment complex that had a back road. It was like the road my complex was on created it's own dead end, and then there was a road adjacent. Nobody really drove on this road much, and it was basically all trees on both sides. There were two or three businesses over there - although I never saw anyone actually going or coming from them mofos. So I used to jog back there. It was like two miles from my front door to the end of that street and back. Yaassss ah bih was jogging for real for real .. well most days - but that aint yo damn business shit! Ok so one day I hear these people laughing right. INSTANT PANIC! I told ya'll no one is back here. Like I'm already looking for random dogs and shit my exit plan was to get up a tree if a dog ...

Dear Shanice, How do you feel about dating a man in jail? My boyfriend of 1 years was sentenced for 5 years on a drug charge and I have mixed emotions. He proposed to me right before he was sentenced and I said yes. It's been about 6 months and I'm already having second thoughts. I have met this really nice guy at my job and he keeps asking me out on a date. My mom said I should leave my boyfriend alone and date around. That if I don't find anyone by the time he gets out then I should get back with him. Thanks. First off I just want ya'll to know I had to piece this letter together like a mutha. I'm not sure how old you are but stay in school! SHIT! Needless to say your FIANCE is locked up for 5 years and you want to know if you should stay with him. Why do women always gotta hold they new ass man down when he get locked up!? Honesty I think he just proposed to you so he could have someone to be obligated to come see him and put money on his books. Couldn...

So one of my goals for 2016 is to actually transform into my adult self. Yes I know I am an adult but my closet right now, doesn't really represent how I want to feel and look as adult Shanice. So I am starting a campaign for myself.  I want to push myself to do more with myself, network more, blog more, live more! I want to LIVE and not just wake up do business, and go back to sleep. I want to run my business(es) like Beyonce. Nah I don't really know how to do that but hey .. one thing you can't say is that she isn't always on her grind. Every day I want to be up by a certain time - working on my businesses. Business Slay with what I'm getting to here people!!! BUSINESS SLAY!!! I'm just out here trying to get these coins ok! Remember << the girl with no 9-5 over here.  I'm going to party like Rihanna. Nah I don't mean go to the club every weekend and so forth but in life in general I'm going to have a IDGAF attitude. I'm just g...

Listen, I have only really talked about the whole Bill Cosby situation with my fiance. He is almost the only person I don't roll my eyes at when talking about things like this. Let me just say this BILL COSBY IS NOT YOU GAH DAMN DADDY!!  #staywoke lmbo!!! LOL. I'm sorry but I just really needed to get that out. I have always had a passion for law but not for school .. umhm ... and I will search and search and search until I find the case and read the documents. Ask my friends .. they will tell you. I printed off the entire case against Eddie Long - and highlighted things - and did the same with the Atlanta Public School case. I like facts ... I like to read things myself and know what the hell is going on. BUT in this case - I really don't give a shit. I don't know Bill Cosby, I'm just mad that 7th Heaven is on and I can't find the Cosby show. Now that is something you might want to #staywoke about because he confessed to the shit. Back to my title .. B...

I was going to start back blogging at the top of the year - but thought I'd give one more before 2015 leaves. A little recap/encouragement, I guess that's what we can call this. In 2015 - I left my job. Like my real ass, 730-430, get paid every 1st & 15th, this is your set salary job. It's still pretty surreal - but yes I did. I started a business with my fiance catering. Scared shitless isn't even the beginning of what I felt. Read that here . I am still running that business right now. I have two other businesses that I started a few years ago and ............ well yeah that's it. Time management is a real issue for your girl. Like FRFR .. BUT I still operate them .... just not as often as I would like. So that's my goal for 2016 - all three need to bringing in more income than it is now. Did I mention it's 2:50am ,, and I have a real estate shoot in the morning? Ah well .. A lot of people ask me about starting a business. After I blank sta...

First off let me say those lives lost in Paris - my condolence to their family. No one wants to lose a anyone in that manner. Now on to what this post is about .. I'm not changing my damn Facebook profile picture to show support to Paris.

Two things that I know for sure will happen in life. You are born and you will die. Death .... I have had some rough dealing with death when it comes to family. My grandfather on my dad side, moved to TX and had a heart attack. It was a closed casket - and it didn't fully hit me until I was about 16 and I saw a man that looked just like him. I waved at the man and the man waved back. I LITERALLY was about to walk over to him. Then the flood gates opened and I cried a solid week in my room. He was my pen-pal, first person to put sugar on my popcorn -which my siblings and I do to this day , debate with me, and so forth. It just didn't seem real, because I didn't see him again. I didn't SEE him in the casket, but I knew he was in the casket. My grandmother on my dad side passed away from breast cancer and a tumor ( if i'm not mistaken ). I was there the entire ordeal. From her being mobile to just laying in the bed making noises. I was in the room when she passed. ...