Danny,
Straight to the point, I am in love with a stripper. This is dumb as hell but I love her. We are bumping heads because I do not want her to strip anymore. She thinks I'm ashamed of her but I just ain't trying to think about another nigga looking at my girl naked. We have only been dating a short amount of time but I feel like she can stop stripping and I will take care of her. She's 21 and I'm 33. I have my own house, two cars, and a very well paying job. I'm not a baller but I live well enough were she can pursue other dreams that she has. I've already told her if she continues to strip when the holidays come around, we will be over. I just need some advise on how to get her to stop stripping and let a real man take care of her.
Broham,
This is not an extremely hard question. My first thought is to ask you did you meet her in the strip club? But that's neither here nor there. What I will tell you is that you have to ultimately understand what it is you want. And at the same time understand what she wants and where she is in life. She's 21, so she's still young. She's learning who she is and what she wants to do as an adult, still fresh out of high-school. She needs a chance to live her life, make mistakes and figure out who she is. Another thing is, you're already past that point in your life. You are basically at the point where you want to settle down. You've lived as an independent person for you while, so you know what you want and what you don't want. Although you guys could love each other, growing as people is very vital to becoming successful individual people, so she has to grow on her own terms and not be forced to make a decision because of where you are in your life. She could agree to stop stripping, move in with you, and pursue other dreams, and there would be absolutely nothing wrong with that. BUT that isn't a decision you should force her to make. So if you are absolute in not wanting her to strip, you might have to let the relationship go, but the main thing is communication. You need to see where she is at, and if there is any room for growth with your relationship.
PS : If you met her at the club, and you saw her shaking that thang ... why you wanna take that away from everybody else. LOL. JK JK But if you did met her there, you were comfortable at some point with other guys looking at her, including yourself. Food for thought.
Straight to the point, I am in love with a stripper. This is dumb as hell but I love her. We are bumping heads because I do not want her to strip anymore. She thinks I'm ashamed of her but I just ain't trying to think about another nigga looking at my girl naked. We have only been dating a short amount of time but I feel like she can stop stripping and I will take care of her. She's 21 and I'm 33. I have my own house, two cars, and a very well paying job. I'm not a baller but I live well enough were she can pursue other dreams that she has. I've already told her if she continues to strip when the holidays come around, we will be over. I just need some advise on how to get her to stop stripping and let a real man take care of her.
Broham,
This is not an extremely hard question. My first thought is to ask you did you meet her in the strip club? But that's neither here nor there. What I will tell you is that you have to ultimately understand what it is you want. And at the same time understand what she wants and where she is in life. She's 21, so she's still young. She's learning who she is and what she wants to do as an adult, still fresh out of high-school. She needs a chance to live her life, make mistakes and figure out who she is. Another thing is, you're already past that point in your life. You are basically at the point where you want to settle down. You've lived as an independent person for you while, so you know what you want and what you don't want. Although you guys could love each other, growing as people is very vital to becoming successful individual people, so she has to grow on her own terms and not be forced to make a decision because of where you are in your life. She could agree to stop stripping, move in with you, and pursue other dreams, and there would be absolutely nothing wrong with that. BUT that isn't a decision you should force her to make. So if you are absolute in not wanting her to strip, you might have to let the relationship go, but the main thing is communication. You need to see where she is at, and if there is any room for growth with your relationship.
PS : If you met her at the club, and you saw her shaking that thang ... why you wanna take that away from everybody else. LOL. JK JK But if you did met her there, you were comfortable at some point with other guys looking at her, including yourself. Food for thought.
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