Dear Mr. Elevator Man

So I had this whole blog written out in the shower about 30 minutes ago. For some strange reason I have been staring at this screen for 10 minutes with nothing to type. First let's talk about me, then we'll talk about you. Many of you do not follow me on social media but I am currently 37 weeks pregnant, still married, with a 20 month old. This second baby was NOT planned and honestly threw me into a world wind of emotions from day one when I found out. You can really prepare everything you need/want for your baby but still not be mentally ready. I, for one, am just now starting to get there. For the past few months I have been struggling with depression. I mean it was really bad. I didn't talk about it with anyone because honestly I did not want to hear any of the following : 1. You need to just go to church and pray about it. - FYI mental health is not something your pastor can scripture away. 2. You aren't the first person to have two babies back to back. - I ...

I don't really know how to start this post, but ya'll rock with me so just let me have a moment. I love to blog but I am having time management issues with everything going on in my life. It doesn't make me money so it kind of goes on the back burner even though I love to do it. My small home town had a double homicide yesterday. I'm not listing names or locations because I respect the privacy of everyone in that situation. With a sad heart, my mind began to race with thoughts of "if this happened to me, have I lived the life I wanted?" Because it can happened to any of us. I live in Stone Mountain, GA and although my block is very quiet, little to no children on the block, just a few weeks ago my husband and I came home to a road full with police, fire department trucks, ambulance vans and cars everywhere. We still don't know what happened down there. I work for myself. My husband and I started a few businesses together and each of them has there se...

Listen .... We get it Sis! WE ....GET.....IT!! The men you have dated over your ENTIRE life time have been TRASH. You do not have to remind us every few weeks. But I want to let you in on a little secret that you might not know umkay? ALL MEN AREN'T TRASH! Whew! I'm so glad I was able to let you in on that secret. Feel better? I do! Honestly though I'm over the man bashing on social media. I'm not sure if ya'll think rallying together on the "men aren't shit" trip is going to help you find a good man or even have one approach you but ummm .. it's not helping your situation. No matter how much you talk about oh I'm staying single forever, I don't need a man, I'm so happy to be in my bed knowing a man ain't cheating on me, you talk ... I BET YOU A MILLION DOLLARS THAT I DON'T HAVE ... when that right man comes around all that talk will change. Right hand to God, the aliens, and ancestor I do NOT want to be single. That si...

I am a me type of Mommy. I pumped, breastfeed and formula feed my child. I pumped enough to store for future and my husband would feed him formula bottles when I was tapped out sleep. I am a vaccine mom. I say a little prayer before my son gets his shots each time and I watch him like a hawk afterwards. TO ME it is worth it. I am a cry it out mom. Yeah it sucks sometimes but it's worked out in MY favor. He gives me a smooth hour playing in his play pen with no interruptions to do whatever it is I need to do around the house.  I am a cosleep and baby bed mom. Sometimes I just don't feel like getting out of my bed for night feedings so he sleeps in bed with us. Other nights I need some "adult time" and I kick his little ass out. LOL. I am a "his first pair of real shoes are white hard bottoms". I am a when the doctor says he can start eating food he ate everything! Fruits and veggies first and later meats.  I am a google mom. I will google the shit out ...

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. Recently we started talking about moving in together and I brought up marriage. She brushed off the question and I really paid it no mind. As we started going to look at rental places, I wanted more rooms than she and when she asked me why I brought up future kids and marriage. She laughed at me and said who said I was going to marry you. Honestly this took me back and hurt my feelings. I guess she noticed it and tried to "please" me later that night. Yes it was great sex, but I was still mad about what she said. This is her way of "hoping I don't bring it up again." We were deciding on what place to pick and I asked her what did she think about getting married in the next year or so. We both are stable, great jobs and in our early 30s. She said she doesn't know if she wants to marry me. I asked her why and she couldn't give me an explanation. I thought about it over the weekend and that following Mon...

Who started this cooking for your man is something that only wives do and not girlfriends? Do ya'll smoke crack? I'm convenience you early-mid 20 somethings smoke crack. I've seen a meme rolling around social media where the man says he wants to see his girl like this (she's cooking in underwear ... which leads to a whole 'notha story. Like I hope she not frying NATHAN!! Because baby bout to get burnt up trying to be cute.) and the girl replies "this is wife level package, you can upgrade your girlfriend package by buying a ring. He couldn't be me. STARVE THEN BIH! Listen .... follow me umkay? 1. NONE OF YA'LL (me included) makes enough money to eat at a restaurant everyday where the food is that damn bomb! Like you gone be eating Applebee's happy hour on the 4th day! AAANNDDDD ain't NOBODY trying to take yo bap ass out to eat EVERYDAY. Hoe I got bills to pay! Say it with me now ... I'mmmm oooonnnn aaaaaaa bbbuuuddddggggeeettt!!! ...

Hi guys! I wish to leave my name out of this for the protection of the other people in this story incase this goes viral. These days it seems anything might just go. My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years. We recently got engaged Summer 2017. My fiancé has a 7 year old and although he says his baby mother is crazy, I have met her and think she is quite sane to me. My fiancé gets upset when she calls for things but honestly it's all for the betterment of their child. Recently her car broke down, she called to see if he could help her get it fixed and he said no. We had a really heated argument about this because he doesn't see how her car not being able to get fixed hurts their child more. He always falls back on the "she better call her man(which she doesn't have one) or she better call her parents). She was not able to get her car fixed and lost her job. Last month she called him crying because she was being evicted from her apartment and since her car h...

I'm fresh into my marriage. Will be two years this year, but I have been with my now husband for 14 years. Lawd, that makes me feel old. Now I enjoy being married. LLLOOVVEEEE IT! But ummmmmrraaaahhhuuuhhhhh, let's talk about married people advice. I'm not saying "all married people" but I've notice that married people LLOOVVEEE to give you the  "I'm up here and your down there" advice. Or they give you the "right, holy" answer. Like bih I'll still give you a two piece! Tell me that I need to leave Jaquan ass alone because he only act right in the winter. Tell me what you would've told me 6 months ago before you got married. I am WORTH MORE! Don't hit me with a bible verse, don't hit me with an I'll pray for you, don't try to tell me this is in God's plan, don't tell me how to keep a man, or why my man ain't acting right... again YOU JUST GOT MARRIED LESS THAN 5 YEARS AGO! I know ya'll ...

Bust into 2018 lliikkkeeee  ... I'm not about to give ya'll the I'm Back spill b/c ccchhhiiillleeee .... I aint loyal. LMAO!! But seriously I am TRYING to be more consistent because this is a great outlet for me to express myself. PLUS you raggedy people in my inbox got my nerves bad with needing advice. SO..... How's ya 2018 going so far? As I am typing this my son is trying to crawl all over me, screaming MA MA MA MA, and my husband is trying to keep him away so I can finish this. LOL. THIS IS MY LIFE! I can't make eye contact with my own damn child or I will have to fight him into the play pen. I love it though. Of course I've been seeing the negative things being said about people that say this new year, they are doing new things. Honestly, I just look over that negatively. If you are not looking forward to growing as a person. business owner, friend, mother, father, or whatever, than you are WWEEIIRRDDD! Of course people can start these things...

We are NOT gone argue today black people. Nah y'all know damn well why black people do not celebrate July 4th. But incase you don't, follow along below .... July 4,1776 - American Colonies declares independence  June 19,1865 - slaves were informed they were free According to my college drop out math .... that's 89 years of popping fireworks that black people didn't get to do. Now I'm not mad at anybody celebrating the 4th. I am and will FOR EVAH partake in the bbq's, spades games, firework popping festivities as long as I live. I just want black people on this day to stop getting upset when you wish another black person a "Happy 4th Of July" and they just look at your ass. BE CAUSE ... several people STILL have no idea what Juneteenth is and no one is barking up your tree about that. Hell that should be a mandatory paid holiday for ALL black folks hell.  So get your kids dressed in their red,white,and blue ( my baby has on coral ...

Dear Shanice, My name is Rose. Currently I was dating an older male and he was recently divorced. He told me that him and his ex wife grew apart. That he stopped finding  her attractive and soon the love went left. He said he hated her style of fashion, and so forth. Because I thought this was going to be my husband, I found his wife's social media accounts and made sure I was to complete opposite of what she was. I'm not going to lie, she was a very attractive older lady and her style was not bad at all. So I kicked my fashion up a few notches, started wearing more heels, more make up, switching up my hair styles and he loved it. After a few months of dating, he told me he loved me and once my lease was up on my apartment we should move in together. The thing is I had just signed a new lease so that was gonna be at least a year. I told him I could just buy out of it but he said no, a year would give us more time to get closer and you never know what would happen. He said an...

HHHHHHHHHHIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!! I been gone for a minute now I'm back with the jump off. So the baby is OUT! The marriage has hit it's first year mark! NAW WHA GIRL! I have been asking myself that for that last week now. Today my little sweet baby is in his swing and mama has actually COOKED DINNER! Ya'll I done cookeded a meal! Like a meat and two sides type meal. I'm proud LOL! A few weeks ago I would be hoovering over him watching him sleep. Anywho - back to the question. What am I to do now that baby is out!?  GET TO THIS SHAMONEY IS WHAT!! Having my son didn't give me a surge of "I gotta get get iittt" (s/o to Jeezy) but it did give me a surge in a timeline. I have always said I want to buy my first house at this age, have this much done by this age and honestly all that moved up a few years now. It feels super weird getting back into business mode now with my son b/c quick jobs I used to do - I now need to find a reliable sitter that can be...

I received an email saying that I was pregnancy weight shaming on my FB page. First things first -  I'm having a boy!!! I am so excited because (when i did want multiple kids because this pregnancy shit it tew murch and tew long) I wanted my oldest child to be a boy,  wanted my husband to have a son first, and I wanted our last name to move on to another generation. My husband is the only boy so yeah .... PRESSURE lol. So I received an email from someone on my facebook page saying I was body shaming pregnant women because I stated I was proud that I only gained 10 pounds and I was 6 months pregnant at the time. I'm still at 10 pounds and I'm in my 26th week. It said pregnant women should not be ashamed of how much weight they gain and how I was rude and "probably harming my baby" because I was being self centered worrying about my own weight. Now listen here ... I was already a thick girl umkay! According to records I was obese for my height, which...

Dear Shanice, First congratulation on your marriage and baby. My name is Breneesha and I am currently pregnant. My baby daddy and I did not plan on getting pregnant and it seems like as soon as I took the test our relationship went to shit. We were living together but he has basically moved out. We have never talked about having kids but we have been together a little over a year. I might see him once a week, and when I ask him where he is going or staying he literally ignores me and leaves. Last week I packed up all of his clothes and told him that he could leave for good and not come back. He is listed on the lease and still pays half the bills. He told me he wasn't going anywhere and once the baby was born he would be back staying full time. Full time? What does that mean? I told him I have basically went through this pregnancy alone and I am fine being a single mom. I have made my mind up that I am going to move into a one bedroom and live alone. I don't know what he is ...

Listen ... Married in May ... PREGNANT soon after .... I was going to start another blog to post just baby stuff but umm yeah ... I barely keep it together over here so we just gone keep Friday's as BABY UPDATES! Finally ending my first trimester here soon ( or already depending on which website you get on chillleeee that's another story ) I am crawling out of the sickness hole - ready to chat it up! So I knew about morning sickness before I got pregnant. I knew that, but ummmmmmm what I didn't know about is ALL DAY SICKNESS!! I suffered for about 2.5 months with all day sickness before I got my drugs . I mean I would hiccup and all hell would break loose! One day I coughed, did you read that .... I COUGHED ... and  had to grab the nearest bag to let loose. Dehydrated. Frustrated. Hungry. Just .... I'm now to the point were it's occasionally, where my praise dancers at?!  and my got my TWO prescriptions filled to fight back! I lost over 10 pounds but they ...

This post is long over due but dah welp! My life has been a ROLLER-COASTER to say the least since 2016 began. But in May of 2016 , this ma'am got MERRIED!!! Yes MERRIED! Quick Breakdown : My Dress : ordered offline Our Hair : Annoited Hands, Amber Davis Bridesmaids :Designed and made by Bianca Loren Make Up : Brianna( myself and a few bridesmaids ), Some Mac Workers, Some bridesmaids Groom & Groomsmen : Savvy Flower Girl : Etsy Flappers : Halloween Customs Online Little Men : Belk & their closets (lol) Brides Mother : David's Bridal Grooms Mother : Dillards All Decoration & Floral arrangements : I Do ... Creations with a little help from my husband Wedding Director : Mrs. Milicent Wedding Coordinator : MIL Cocktail Hour Set : Tina Ok so my wedding was a big one. We had about 440 people there. Planned for 500, so we were in the clear on setting! The great thing is a lot of people who RSVP'd didn't show and A LOT of people that didn't ...