Is Pregnancy Weight Shaming A Thing?

I received an email saying that I was pregnancy weight shaming on my FB page.

First things first -  I'm having a boy!!! I am so excited because (when i did want multiple kids because this pregnancy shit it tew murch and tew long) I wanted my oldest child to be a boy,  wanted my husband to have a son first, and I wanted our last name to move on to another generation. My husband is the only boy so yeah .... PRESSURE lol.

So I received an email from someone on my facebook page saying I was body shaming pregnant women because I stated I was proud that I only gained 10 pounds and I was 6 months pregnant at the time. I'm still at 10 pounds and I'm in my 26th week. It said pregnant women should not be ashamed of how much weight they gain and how I was rude and "probably harming my baby" because I was being self centered worrying about my own weight.

Now listen here ... I was already a thick girl umkay! According to records I was obese for my height, which never bothered me because since high school I have always been "overweight" for my height. I've always been a thick girl. I carry my weight in my bottom half. BUT I would never body shame a pregnant person. I got so much flake from people when I would say at the beginning of my pregnancy " I"m not gaining more than 20 pounds". I meant that shit. I am NOT gaining more than 20 pounds. In my birthing class it's people in there 40 pounds strong in the game and I'm just like nope nope nope! I worked very hard to lost 30 pounds for my wedding. I MEAN HARD BIH!! And I don't want to gain any unnecessary weight because I'm pregnant. I put that out there because I'm not gonna have time to try to lose extra weight I could've prevented when he gets here. I do eat for two. Plus he can snack on all this extra fat I have. Hence why I don't have to gain tons of weight because I have stored food already inside. LOL. My husband is very on top of this with me. I have a great support system ( who is mad that I haven't been walking but I'm starting that today I swear).

I have SEENT women gain TONS of weight while being pregnant - then pop out a little ass baby - and still have 40 plus pounds they are trying to drop when they get pregnant again. I'm not shaming anyone. I researched and talked to my NP about how much weight is ok for me to gain. You can gain 100 pounds for all I give a shit but that doesn't mean it's healthy and that doesn't mean I'm going to follow in your foot steps. I'm 5'3 BARELY, but I am ... there is no need for me to put all that extra weight  because I wanna get up at 1230 for a bacon double cheeseburger, no onions, large fry, sprite light ice, and can I have some honey mustard and ketchup!? I get craving - real ones - but I know the ones I can fight and the ones that have me in the McDonald's drive thru at midnight for a large fry, hi-c with 2 honey mustard.

Being able to carry life is a blessing. I am thrilled. I put myself on this weight plan because I don't want to have any issues with high blood pressure or anything else that comes with gaining that extra weight. See how I keep saying EXTRA! Because I know you have to gain weight when you are having a baby! You would've thought I said I'm not gonna gain any weight how shawty was coming at me about staying at a 20 pound weight gain. Lawd! And don't you EVER pop out ya damn mouth about me harming my son. If I knew who you were - I'd be at cha door! BE'LE DAT!

I'm great , he is great, and our NP is happy with our weight gain. 10 more pounds and 3 more months to go until show time! And if I do go over 20 pounds - I will live! LOL. And try again next time.

xoxox
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