Dear Mr. Elevator Man

I was going to start back blogging at the top of the year - but thought I'd give one more before 2015 leaves. A little recap/encouragement, I guess that's what we can call this. In 2015 - I left my job. Like my real ass, 730-430, get paid every 1st & 15th, this is your set salary job. It's still pretty surreal - but yes I did. I started a business with my fiance catering. Scared shitless isn't even the beginning of what I felt. Read that here . I am still running that business right now. I have two other businesses that I started a few years ago and ............ well yeah that's it. Time management is a real issue for your girl. Like FRFR .. BUT I still operate them .... just not as often as I would like. So that's my goal for 2016 - all three need to bringing in more income than it is now. Did I mention it's 2:50am ,, and I have a real estate shoot in the morning? Ah well .. A lot of people ask me about starting a business. After I blank sta

First off let me say those lives lost in Paris - my condolence to their family. No one wants to lose a anyone in that manner. Now on to what this post is about .. I'm not changing my damn Facebook profile picture to show support to Paris.

I don't even know how to start this blog off or if it'll even make sense, be grammatically correct but here we go .... A white teacher from my hometown, decided that he and his wife were going to dress up as Kanye and Kim West for Halloween. No Issue there. Look - I even got you some examples on how to do it : Now the issue with this "teachers outfit" is that .... he decide .. all on his own .. to paint his body brown. Yes he's entire body. His wife, who posted the photo online even stated " People thought he was a black man" - Direct quote. When I saw him .. these images flooded my mind ...  Now I know for some of you guys, who possibly are off the grid , you have never seen those photos. BUT every Halloween - for some strange reason - white people feel like "Yes we can pull out our black body paint and became a nigger for a day!!". My dear ... this is black face. No one gives a shit that is it Halloween, you don&#

Dear Danny, I wanted to know your POV on this meme going around recently. My girlfriends and I are on the same page. The baby mama cannot stay here - and my husband would be on the curb with her if I came home and she was there. We just wanted to hear from a man's side. Thanks ! *Deeps breaths* There is so much ...  I am going to respond to this letter as I am speaking to him.  Were you wrong? Yes and No. You were wrong because you went against your wife's answer. You asked her her thoughts,she gave it to you; and you disregarded them. Now we can see why she did this. One - because she doesn't want someone you were previously sexually involved with and/or in a relationship with staying under her roof. For obvious reasons, this could bring up a whole trunk load of problems. She can feel like your ex still might want to be with you, she can be having trust issues thinking you may fall weak and do some shit you ain't suppose to. Women are competitive with

Two things that I know for sure will happen in life. You are born and you will die. Death .... I have had some rough dealing with death when it comes to family. My grandfather on my dad side, moved to TX and had a heart attack. It was a closed casket - and it didn't fully hit me until I was about 16 and I saw a man that looked just like him. I waved at the man and the man waved back. I LITERALLY was about to walk over to him. Then the flood gates opened and I cried a solid week in my room. He was my pen-pal, first person to put sugar on my popcorn -which my siblings and I do to this day , debate with me, and so forth. It just didn't seem real, because I didn't see him again. I didn't SEE him in the casket, but I knew he was in the casket. My grandmother on my dad side passed away from breast cancer and a tumor ( if i'm not mistaken ). I was there the entire ordeal. From her being mobile to just laying in the bed making noises. I was in the room when she passed.

So the other day I went to the public storage, because I needed a new spot to hide the bodies right? Well, as I am telling the lady who I am and get prepared to see the unit she tells me - yes this girl writing this right now - that it is raining and she isn't going out in the rain to show me the unit. Was that a run on sentence? Oh well ... Now let me set the scene for you umkay? It had been raining pretty much all day but at this time is wasn't. Still a little gloomy out but I was out there in gym shorts, a tshirt and head scarf. Although I am natural, bih I am NOT trying to detangle these curls back out from the raining righty - tighty on my head. So I say ummmm well isn't that your job to show me the unit? She goes well yes, but I'm not going out in the rain. At this point the entire fuck that I was giving her, is OUT THA DAWH. You are really sitting here in my face, thinking I am going to sign this paperwork and fuck around and get a storage room with Jeepers

So everyone knows that I am getting married next year. I am apart of #TeamPlussize, about 2 years now , and would like to enter into #teamthick draft before winter official comes. Hey Ya'll!!!  Same day as above, running tights.  I have lost 17 pounds and haven't been to the gym in a smooottthhhh 2 months. Well that ends today! Well tomorrow .. lol ... I have went to Sam's Club and got my green smoothie items, and paid up my membership. That leads me to what this blog is about ... Is you Fat or nah? In the black community, and among people that I know, we gain weight and it is what it is. We try to lose weight for about 3 weeks and when we have only dropped 3 pounds, we quit. WE become content with taking selfies from above our heads, heads tilted, and only from our chest up - when we are of a certain size. Now again, I'm not saying every "bigger person" does this, but most do. I am guilty myself. You get into this whole " Big Girls are sexy,

Good evening Shanice,  It's great to see you back blogging. I have a quick question that I am hoping to get some advice on. I met my ex girlfriend right after she had her son, about 4 years ago. I thought she was a great strong woman and pursued her anyways. Her baby father was never around. Her son called me Pop Pop and I am he's father. His mother and I are no longer together ( 2 years now ) but we still co parent. About 2 months ago the child's father came back into the picture. This man has not done anything for this child and now she is pushing me away. I pick him up every day from school and take him to he's after school activities until she gets off work. Now she wants the father to pick him up and wants me to cut off all communication with this child. I just feel like the child's father is just doing this because he's parents don't like me taking the child around my family. Long story short, I posted a photo of all my family and him at a famil

Send me your reader letters at sbarrett3289@gmail.com   Dear Shanice,  I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year . Over the last past few months he has started to ask me things to do to him sexually. At first it was no problem but now I'm uncomfortable and concerned. In the heat of the moment one night, my guy asked me to stick a finger in he's butt. I was so thrown off but again we were making love so I did it. I didn't really think about it but it instantly turned him on, so it turned me on too. He asked me a few more times, and I did it. I just wrote it off to him being super freaky, because we gets it in. A month ago he asked me to add more fingers and I told him I didn't want too. He got a attitude and came before me and left my house. I was so shocked at how upset he got. I called him and told him I was uncomfortable doing that and he said he wanted me to stick 4 fingers in he's butt. If I really "loved" him, I would do it because it gets

Today I officially leave the corporate working world. LAWDDDD HELP ME!!! I went back and forth on whether I wanted to share this with others or not, and said hell why not! I'm not sharing er'thang - but - I can give you a little bit umkay!!  First let's get into this BEAT! That lash got my eye looking a little like it's off that purp but thats neither here nor there. :) I'm also really starting to embrace these big ass eyes of mine. BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT THIS POST IS ABOUT ... So today is my last day at my current job. I am leaving because my fiance started a business as well as helping with other people visions as well. No lie - a bih nervous as hell - but I am excited as shit! People at work have been asking me how I prepared myself to leave and truth be told I don't know how I did it. You want to plan everything and make sure everything is in place before you leave - but sometimes it doesn't happen that way. I was pushed into having to resign. LIT

Heeellllloooo Ladies! HHEEELLLLLOOOO. How are ya'll doing toniigghhhtttt? FFFIINNEEE. Can I keep it rrrreeeaallllll? YYYYEESSS. And say what's on my mind? ... What cha'll know about that!!! THROWBIKE! 

That's been my week. Come on in and let me get some things off my chest ....

Yes I am back at the strip club Stebie. LOL. I moved out of the hotel, gave back the car, went and got my own car and apartment. He was mad aa hell but I didn't care. You were right though, I was so caught up in that shit that I wouldn't see my left from my right. Now that I'm back at the club, it's new girls there that I have to put in check about my money and my regulars. It's not my problem when I came back they wanted me over them. My new thing now is girls.

So I received an update from the wife that is sleeping with her husbands nephew. I really just want her to tell her husband. At this point there is no marriage to save. I am not married yet but I know for a FACT if my soon to be husband has a baby with someone else; it's over. At this point in your life you made the commitment to love, respect and cherish me. Stepping outside of our marriage is showing me that you do not care about me or these vows we took. If you are in a relationship and the other person moves out; you need to figure out if you can work it out or if it's time to let it go. DO NOT bring a third person into your marriage and wreck havoc. - Shanice

Dear Danny, When do you think a man should be taken back in a relationship? My boyfriend of 2 years just told me about how you cheated on me with multiple women for the first year of our relationship. As he puts it "he has grown so much since then and he had to get the truth off he's chest". This I found out was a lie because I got a Facebook message from one of the girls telling me that he had a 3 month old son. When I confronted him about it, after taking he's lying ass back in, he told me he went and got a DNA test and the baby isn't he's. Which only pisses me off even more because you are out here having unprotected sex with these women and we keep it wrapped up tight over here because of my trust issues. My friends are telling me to give him another chance since it was over a year ago and he told me instead of me finding out but I really want to say fuck him. We do not live together so it's not like I have to split up shit between us. I want to go t

Lawd ...............            Lawd ............................. The title is JUST the tip of the ice!!!!!! I recorded this with my laptop instead of my camera so the quality is not the best but if you want a good story and laugh .. check it out!! Like, comment,and subscribe!

I have seen the above question quite a few times over the last week so I thought, hey why not speak on it! Hello, my name is Shanice and I am a plate fixer.

Dear Danny, I have been seeing this guy for six months now and everything was fine until I Lost weight. Now every time I put something on he has to examine it and tell me what he likes or doesn't like or approve if I can wear or not. I have lost over hundred pounds in a year and enjoy showing off my new figure. I'm not that comfortable in my new body so I rarely wear anything that's mid drift but I do have a new love for tights. Now everywhere we go if a guy is looking at me he catches an attitude and tell me that I'm asking for the attention.

Listen here lady, We cut through this shopping center to BEAT traffic. If you are just going to keep easing out but NOT going then you should've stayed your ass in that line.

This photo has nothing to do with my topic but i just think it's so funny ... lmao!!!!! If someone tells you that they are not ready for a relationship BELIEVE THEM!! It doesn't matter how they are treating you, if they have sat right in your face and said " hey I'm not looking to settle down yet. "

Dear Danny, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years. We went through a few months where we were not on the same page. She was wanting me to move in with her and I wasn't ready to take that step. A few weeks ago I saw this guy run up on her and give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. I played it cool and just ask her who it was but I was pretty heated inside. She told me he was just a friend from a previous job. She has been getting really distant and on her phone more since after she saw ol' dude. We been arguing for no reason and when her phone rings she goes out the room to talk on it. I ended up going through her phone and read a message from him saying he wanted to pick up where they left off a few months back. ( Basically the time we were going through out little thing ) They were talking about their future together, like I didn't exist.She text him to come over a few times late at night and I'm pretty sure they fucked.

Wassup Wasup Wassup Wassup Wassup ... LADIES ... Wassup Wasup Wassup Wassup Wassup .. * enters twerk mode * Random post fa that ass! This engagement has my world UP SIDE DOWN. So after this party, I will be back like like roaches in the projects :) Until then I'll pop in and out if I want to say sum sum .. Well let's get jiggy with it

Grab a glass, this is going to be a long ride today.

I'm in a shitty mood today so you have been warned. Let's get to this random post ...

Dear Danny, I am 27 years old and have been married for 5 years. I know I was very young when I got married but I loved my husband very much. Three years into my marriage my husband had an outside child. I separated from my husband for a year and eventually went back. I now have a 1 year old son and I don't know if I want to continue to be with my husband. He says he hasn't stepped outside our marriage but anytime he isn't where he said he was, I instantly go to him cheating. His first child baby mother makes slick comments and he doesn't do anything to stop it. My mother told me that I only went back to my husband so that I could have a child by him. At this point everything he does pisses me off. I don't even want his other child to come over here anymore because it's a constant reminder. I know that is childish but hey, I'm telling my truth. Please help. Do you think we can work through this, or is it even worth it? Tina

ELLEEELLLOOOOO!!!!! I'm wondering where has the love gone?

New Monday spot! I get a nice amount of emails from men asking me things that honestly, I cannot answer. So Today I want to introduce #MCM Danny's Advice. Every Monday you can catch a topic/letter from him answering. We have some catching up to do but decided to jump on in with this question since I have been asked twice already. Enjoy!

Nina :  I haven't been out of this hotel since it happened. I miscarried. This is a bunch of words together because I can't seem to get my words together. I hate when people say, oh well you weren't that far along. Well I say FUCK YOU! 

I think Sunday's will be my hey let's talk about weight/what I'm eating/what I'm stressing about wedding spot. I don't really feel the " pressure " of blogging on Sunday's and I'm pretty sure no one will read this anyways. So let's see what I have to say this Sunday :)

Dear Shanice,  I started sleeping with my fiancee's sister about 2 months after we got engaged. We have always been cool, so it was never an issue for us to be alone with each other. She is buying a house and invited me to come along with her so she wouldn't be by herself with the Realtor. She bought a house that we both agreed on and to celebrate took me on a spa date. I cleared this with my fiancee and I headed to the hotel for my thank you spa day.

So here is a little story and I would like to share .. hopefully someone will reply with what they think .... If you met someone and they tell you they are separated from their spouse .. and you say oh what happened ..... and then they say ..... they just disappeared ..... my mind instantly goes to

Now on to the real deal holy-field ... I am OVER CHURCH! Whew .. that feels really good to say. When I was younger and I went to church is not the same church that I see today. I first felt this struggle when I went off to college. The church I would go to would HARP on giving, and basically made me feel horrible for not being able to give.   I don't care that it is 10% of what I have, if I don't have enough to sustain my living situation, I'm not giving it . I would see students giving their LAST, when they knew their parents wouldn't be sending any money for another week or two, so that they could get a blessing. I saw these same students packing extra food up to sneak back to the dorms because they had no more money. Because they were counting on that "blessing" you promised them to come through when they have you their last $20. Yes Jesus only ask for 10% of that, but there is always a program that is asking for a lending hand.  I think at this point

Dear Sandra from Wal-Mart, Today would have been the day that I would've realized a few things. 1.My pants have not touched my shoes in a while, because you are flooding for life girl .. 2. This headband I have on doesn't match SHIT I'm wearing and 3. WalMart does NOT pay me enough to resist whooping this lady ass on site right now. Sandra girl .. I don't know how you just let this lady in the self check out curse you out like this and you just walked away. Listen here .. Wal-Mart does not pay ANYBODY enough to not knock this lady up side her head. See this would've been the time I would've been behind the register like " ma'am, I'm not about to be to many more bitches before I been knocked yo ass into another line ya'hear?" But again, that's just me. Futhermore you gone let the lady checking out with the food-stamp card, bring out a wad of cash and tell You .. Yes You Sandra girl .. that she can make it rain on ya ass. I mean r

YYYYAASSSSS ..... If you do not follow me on social media then you do not know bbbuuttttt I got ENGAGED YESTERDAY!!!!!! 

And if you guessed it was my birthday .... YOU WERE RIGHT! That eyelash was on FFLLLEEEEKKK that day. Ok, it was really on it's last leg but whatever I was still cute. Well today is the day that the Lord said ... LET GREATNESS BE BORN! And Here I am :) 26 years later.  So I am 26 .. GAH DAMN the pressure is really on to get my life together. Side note : Why was I crip walking to the baby Einsteins theme song? I'm so shame. ANYWHO! I always thought by 25 I would be a working lawyer, married with my first baby on the way. Well listen here .. I am a college drop out, found my career ( that I LOVE ) in logistics, not married ( but very happy ) with no kids. I'm truly happy and blessed this birthday. Now on to a few RRRAANNNDDDOOMMMMM. I know y'all love when I speak ratchet. LOL. 1. Why does dry grinding turn you women on? Like I saw this clip of Chris Brown humping the air and the comment section was tew murch. Like you know he isn't going to fuck y

Dear slow rider, The fn police are wwwwwaaaaaayyyyyyyyy over there, with someone pulled over ..... SPEED UP!!! I don't understand why we have to play snail and tortoise with the pulled over police. The speed limit is 55, why sweet Lord biscuit butter ball baby Job, are we going 29. I'll let you in on a little secret ... HE CAN'T GET YOU IF YOU ARE GOING BELOW THE SPEED LIMIT. Now you got an attitude with me because I'm riding your ass. You right I'm riding you because all the other cars are ZOOMING pass us and you still over here driving Miss Daisy. Then when I do get around you, yo punk ass wanna speed up. -_- You kidding right? Just speed up!!!!! At least go 50!!! I'm not asking for much. I'm not, I'm not .. I P R'r O M I S E I'm  not being difficult. I just want to not ram your car into that ditch over there and watch it slam into a few of those trees because you are afraid that the police that already have someone pulled over, who is o

I'm so tired of seeing people "beef" and fight on FB from my small town. I know each small town has it's problems, but GAH DAMN!! I swear it seems like every year it gets worst. I can't even fault the younger kids for being out here in the streets, showing no respect for elders, fighting over petty shit, keeping up drama because the older "grown ups" are doing showing them how to act. At what age are you going to stop fighting? You do know that is a crime right? You also have someone else stupid ass out here recording it as evidence. NEWS FLASH : Once something is placed on the internet, even deleted, it can still be found. Employees are on all social network and with a city as small as Decatur, they will find the videos. I wanna know what one must say to you to get you ready to fight? I'm almost 26 years old and unless you put your hands on me, chile you can miss me with all that running off at the mouth shit, ESPECIALLY on social media. I do not