Dear Mr. Elevator Man

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. Recently we started talking about moving in together and I brought up marriage. She brushed off the question and I really paid it no mind. As we started going to look at rental places, I wanted more rooms than she and when she asked me why I brought up future kids and marriage. She laughed at me and said who said I was going to marry you. Honestly this took me back and hurt my feelings. I guess she noticed it and tried to "please" me later that night. Yes it was great sex, but I was still mad about what she said. This is her way of "hoping I don't bring it up again." We were deciding on what place to pick and I asked her what did she think about getting married in the next year or so. We both are stable, great jobs and in our early 30s. She said she doesn't know if she wants to marry me. I asked her why and she couldn't give me an explanation. I thought about it over the weekend and that following Mon...

Hi guys! I wish to leave my name out of this for the protection of the other people in this story incase this goes viral. These days it seems anything might just go. My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years. We recently got engaged Summer 2017. My fiancé has a 7 year old and although he says his baby mother is crazy, I have met her and think she is quite sane to me. My fiancé gets upset when she calls for things but honestly it's all for the betterment of their child. Recently her car broke down, she called to see if he could help her get it fixed and he said no. We had a really heated argument about this because he doesn't see how her car not being able to get fixed hurts their child more. He always falls back on the "she better call her man(which she doesn't have one) or she better call her parents). She was not able to get her car fixed and lost her job. Last month she called him crying because she was being evicted from her apartment and since her car h...

Good evening Shanice,  It's great to see you back blogging. I have a quick question that I am hoping to get some advice on. I met my ex girlfriend right after she had her son, about 4 years ago. I thought she was a great strong woman and pursued her anyways. Her baby father was never around. Her son called me Pop Pop and I am he's father. His mother and I are no longer together ( 2 years now ) but we still co parent. About 2 months ago the child's father came back into the picture. This man has not done anything for this child and now she is pushing me away. I pick him up every day from school and take him to he's after school activities until she gets off work. Now she wants the father to pick him up and wants me to cut off all communication with this child. I just feel like the child's father is just doing this because he's parents don't like me taking the child around my family. Long story short, I posted a photo of all my family and him at a famil...

Send me your reader letters at sbarrett3289@gmail.com   Dear Shanice,  I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year . Over the last past few months he has started to ask me things to do to him sexually. At first it was no problem but now I'm uncomfortable and concerned. In the heat of the moment one night, my guy asked me to stick a finger in he's butt. I was so thrown off but again we were making love so I did it. I didn't really think about it but it instantly turned him on, so it turned me on too. He asked me a few more times, and I did it. I just wrote it off to him being super freaky, because we gets it in. A month ago he asked me to add more fingers and I told him I didn't want too. He got a attitude and came before me and left my house. I was so shocked at how upset he got. I called him and told him I was uncomfortable doing that and he said he wanted me to stick 4 fingers in he's butt. If I really "loved" him, I would do it because it gets...

So I received an update from the wife that is sleeping with her husbands nephew. I really just want her to tell her husband. At this point there is no marriage to save. I am not married yet but I know for a FACT if my soon to be husband has a baby with someone else; it's over. At this point in your life you made the commitment to love, respect and cherish me. Stepping outside of our marriage is showing me that you do not care about me or these vows we took. If you are in a relationship and the other person moves out; you need to figure out if you can work it out or if it's time to let it go. DO NOT bring a third person into your marriage and wreck havoc. - Shanice

Dear Danny, When do you think a man should be taken back in a relationship? My boyfriend of 2 years just told me about how you cheated on me with multiple women for the first year of our relationship. As he puts it "he has grown so much since then and he had to get the truth off he's chest". This I found out was a lie because I got a Facebook message from one of the girls telling me that he had a 3 month old son. When I confronted him about it, after taking he's lying ass back in, he told me he went and got a DNA test and the baby isn't he's. Which only pisses me off even more because you are out here having unprotected sex with these women and we keep it wrapped up tight over here because of my trust issues. My friends are telling me to give him another chance since it was over a year ago and he told me instead of me finding out but I really want to say fuck him. We do not live together so it's not like I have to split up shit between us. I want to go t...