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Dear Shanice : My Man of 1 year is doing 5 years

Dear Shanice,

How do you feel about dating a man in jail? My boyfriend of 1 years was sentenced for 5 years on a drug charge and I have mixed emotions. He proposed to me right before he was sentenced and I said yes. It's been about 6 months and I'm already having second thoughts. I have met this really nice guy at my job and he keeps asking me out on a date. My mom said I should leave my boyfriend alone and date around. That if I don't find anyone by the time he gets out then I should get back with him.

Thanks.


First off I just want ya'll to know I had to piece this letter together like a mutha. I'm not sure how old you are but stay in school! SHIT! Needless to say your FIANCE is locked up for 5 years and you want to know if you should stay with him.
Why do women always gotta hold they new ass man down when he get locked up!? Honesty I think he just proposed to you so he could have someone to be obligated to come see him and put money on his books. Couldn't be me! 
I think you should tell him - listen hear bruh bruh ... I'm gone be here for you, I'm gone put a little money on your books when I have a little extra income, I'll send you a four page letter sealed with a kiss umkay but you ain't 50 cent and I ain't Megan Good ..... Don't count on me to support you mentally - I can barely spell and form a sentence -  Get out of that shit before it turn into some possessive shit straight up. Date other people, but if you find someone else don't feel bad. He knew he was looking at some time when he got with you. And if you don't meet anyone and he gets out .... I still say get the hell on but maybe ya'll will work out. I just know jail birds don't fly bih and I'm trying to soar!!! 

Now if my fiance, that I have right now , was to get locked up for 5 years on a drug charge ..... I'm gone ride that shit out with him. Lawd help me but I would. BUT we have been together for way longer than 1 year. Hol'up tho : if he like left you some BREAD BREAD .. which I don't think he did because you are working .. then I would say stay and flip all that dirty money into good business money. When I say BREADDDDD .. I mean you don't have to work, your bank account on fleek , plus added to his bank account, nice crib ( that you don't share with his mama,cousin,homeboys,brothers) ,car (in your name) then yeah girl .. STAY WITH MEEEE!! I mean him. Hell I'll move in and be your roommate and business associate. Chile ain't graduated from nobody school, but I'll help you. LMBO!!

Girl Run - F- all that and RUN!!! Live your life and he should understand that. If he doesn't, well .... he got time to think about his feelings. Shade. 

Peace & Love! 


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