So, as I stated on my video here .. I will have guest answering and posting this month. I didn't want to ask actually blogger because everyone does that. So I extended a hand to some of my most faithful readers who always give me a s/o on social media, to stop by and chat for a while. I love them and I just knew their advise would be on point. So first up is Miss Delnata! She is the sweetest person,but don't push her! Her son is TOTS ADORBS and her post on FB always have me rolling. Now let's cut all that out and get to the juice unkay? UMKAY!
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Dear Shanice,
I hope this email meets you will. I have a problem. I know something that I shouldn't know and if I told would destroy my family. My mother is cheating on my father. They are married but have been going through a rough period. Last year my father cheated and got a woman pregnant. The lady and my mother got into a fight and she lost the child. My mom went to jail and of course my father got her out. Since then things have been really tense around the house. I left for college and on my return for the summer, it seemed like things were back to normal. I was wrong. My mom wanted me to download Instragram on her phone and I saw a very inappropriate text from a gentleman. I got out my private eye app and started digging around. I found photos and message about all type of sick things I never needed to know. My father is really trying to make things right but my mom is just faking it. Should I confront my mom about this or just mind my own business? I feel that my family is split anyways, so my parents getting a divorce wouldn't hurt me that much. Any Advice?
Thanks,
Leslie
Dear College Student,
Where do I begin? I'll start with you. First, even though you say it won't affect you, it will. I'm going to assume they have been married somewhere between 18-23 years. Since your father cheated first, its probably been hell within your home. And all you want is for this to be over or go away. Better yet, you just want some peace. In order to get peace, YOU must forgive your parents. If you dont, it could possibly hender your future relationship(s). Don't let their possible failure be your future. Love your parents regardless of the outcome. These are the caregivers God chose for you for a reason. And even though both of them are dead wrong, they're still your parents. Now let's talk about your parents. First off your dad was wrong. Obviously he knows that if he is trying to make it work. But your mom is another story. She is DEAD WRONG!!! I know she's hurt, but HIV/AIDS STDs are real! She just wants to fill that void of hurt that your father caused. Not only did he cheat, but he got his side piece pregnant?! I don't condone violence, but instead of fighting the pregnant lady, she should have fought your father. And if she didn't want to make it work, as Usher stated so eloquently, she have just "signed them papers". So I say, sit her down and talk to her. You know its not your business, but as her daughter, she is your example of what a woman should be. And cheating on your dad bc he cheated on her is not helping the situation at all. Thats childish. So yes, tell her you know! Don't hold back on how you feel bc she unknowingly brought you in this situation. Now you have to either wait until she tells your dad or tell him yourself. But if your dad is the "I aint a killer, but don't push me" type...you should hold off on telling him. This is definitely a situation they will eventually have to work out themselves. You just keep trying your best in school! Excel in all that you do. And LIVE! We're all imperfect people living in imperfect situations. Its what you do during those times that determine the outcome of who you are and who you will become in life. Draw strength from this and move forward :)
Where do I begin? I'll start with you. First, even though you say it won't affect you, it will. I'm going to assume they have been married somewhere between 18-23 years. Since your father cheated first, its probably been hell within your home. And all you want is for this to be over or go away. Better yet, you just want some peace. In order to get peace, YOU must forgive your parents. If you dont, it could possibly hender your future relationship(s). Don't let their possible failure be your future. Love your parents regardless of the outcome. These are the caregivers God chose for you for a reason. And even though both of them are dead wrong, they're still your parents. Now let's talk about your parents. First off your dad was wrong. Obviously he knows that if he is trying to make it work. But your mom is another story. She is DEAD WRONG!!! I know she's hurt, but HIV/AIDS STDs are real! She just wants to fill that void of hurt that your father caused. Not only did he cheat, but he got his side piece pregnant?! I don't condone violence, but instead of fighting the pregnant lady, she should have fought your father. And if she didn't want to make it work, as Usher stated so eloquently, she have just "signed them papers". So I say, sit her down and talk to her. You know its not your business, but as her daughter, she is your example of what a woman should be. And cheating on your dad bc he cheated on her is not helping the situation at all. Thats childish. So yes, tell her you know! Don't hold back on how you feel bc she unknowingly brought you in this situation. Now you have to either wait until she tells your dad or tell him yourself. But if your dad is the "I aint a killer, but don't push me" type...you should hold off on telling him. This is definitely a situation they will eventually have to work out themselves. You just keep trying your best in school! Excel in all that you do. And LIVE! We're all imperfect people living in imperfect situations. Its what you do during those times that determine the outcome of who you are and who you will become in life. Draw strength from this and move forward :)
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