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Remember Brittany from Pregnant by my Youth Director? Well Miss Ma'am has emailed me back with a follow up and I am LIVID!! I am now personally talking to her because this is just wrong. This blog has become a way bigger thing than me and if you write me, I'm going to help you. Her issue has so many topics I want to speak about, and I will, but for right now I'm just trying to open her eyes.
Dear Miss Shanice,
I told my mom and she was pretty upset. I have been talking to HIM and he really hasn't been supportive. He won't answer my calls and completely ignores me in church. I texted him what did I do to him to make him treat me like this and he said, not getting an abortion. That really mad me upset so I went and told my mom who the baby of my unborn child was. She didn't believe me until I showed her a message from him. I thought she would be upset about reading the abortion part but she was just mad at me for being a "stupid girl" as she said. My mom called him and told him to tell fiance, or she would and hung up. I texted him that I was sorry I told my mom, and he told me to leave him alone and thanks for ruining his life. That following Sunday we had a meeting in the childrens church area. It was my mother, HIM, his fiance(then), and myself. They told me that they were going to go to the Court House and get married that day, and that I would sign over my baby to them to adopt. My mom said I would go in front of the church and tell them that I trapped HIM and that I would give my baby over to them since I am a single mother. My heart was beating fast, I was crying and my mother was screaming at me to do the right thing. How I had ruined this man's name and thank goodness his fiance was such a godly woman for standing by him. I kept saying I didn't trap him but no one was listening. His fiance looked at me in disgust and he wouldn't even look at me. Just kept rubbing her back, and kissing her hand. I told him I would think about it and let them know. Miss Shanice, I do not want to give my baby up but I don't want my baby to struggle because of me. I have a full time job right now but I live on campus. I don't want to be a single mom. He texted me this morning and told me that if I gave them the baby, he would convince my mother not to make me go in front of the church and him and his NOW WIFE would say they adopted from a family friend. I'm only 19, and the pressure is a lot from them but I don't want to lose my baby.
Dear Brittany,
First of all, you are such a strong young woman and you don't even know it yet! What you are NOT gonna do is go in front of that church and tell you business to NO ONE that is going to judge you off a made up ass story your mother put together. Everyone in that church has had sex before marriage and it's none of their business what you do. They do not have a heaven nor hell to put you in. There enough mess going on in the church. You did NOT trap him. I know you know this.
Let's list the things this shit head ass man did to you :
1. Kissed you
2. Confided personal relationship information to you
3. Told you he love you
4. Came into your room when he knew you were emotionally unstable to sex YOU
5.Hugged you, touched you, flirted WITH YOU
6. Visited you at college
7. Spent weekends with you
Do I really need to go on?
This man PREYED on you. No matter how cute you thought he was, from your emails, you knew it would be wrong to push yourself up on him and you did not. I applaud you. You did the right thing. Now on to this baby. This is your baby. There are so many single, young mothers out here going to school and making it. I'm not saying you don't need a man for shit, but what I am saying is baby you can raise your child on your own. Your school probably has a daycare and you already have a job. Get you some NICE assistant living situation, join a college mom group and strive for the best. I would NOT, and you will NOT, give your baby to this piece of shit ass couple. And you can tell them I said that. Even though your child is not here, you are a mother. That's why you are crying and stomach turning when someone sits in your face and tells you to give the baby you are carrying to them, who honestly don't give a shit about you or that baby. If they did care you would not be going to doctors appointments alone. Wouldn't "they" be checking up on you to see how you are feeling, if you need anything? Your own mother is behind half of this craziness as well. This is hard because we all love our mothers but you are going to have to deal with her from a distance until she starts living in the real world again. Your young, precious, naive, but a gentle sweet girl who is going through bullshit that you did not ask for. The only wrong you did, is fall for a mutha fucka who ain't shit. We have all done it. But what you are going to do, is make it out this storm with a precious baby, while standing on your OWN two feet, collecting that child support, moving on to a better life. Please don't give them your baby. It may sound like a good idea because you have nothing right now, but trust me a little faith and hard work goes a long way. I would tell them no, and then go tell the actually Pastor of your church what is going on. Print off those messages and show him. Regardless of what he says, you have advised the leader of the church of what is happening there. Tell your mother to get with it, or miss out on a precious grand child. Then tell his simple minded ass you'll see him in child support court. Email me back love, I am rooting for you :)
Shanice
Remember Brittany from Pregnant by my Youth Director? Well Miss Ma'am has emailed me back with a follow up and I am LIVID!! I am now personally talking to her because this is just wrong. This blog has become a way bigger thing than me and if you write me, I'm going to help you. Her issue has so many topics I want to speak about, and I will, but for right now I'm just trying to open her eyes.
Dear Miss Shanice,
I told my mom and she was pretty upset. I have been talking to HIM and he really hasn't been supportive. He won't answer my calls and completely ignores me in church. I texted him what did I do to him to make him treat me like this and he said, not getting an abortion. That really mad me upset so I went and told my mom who the baby of my unborn child was. She didn't believe me until I showed her a message from him. I thought she would be upset about reading the abortion part but she was just mad at me for being a "stupid girl" as she said. My mom called him and told him to tell fiance, or she would and hung up. I texted him that I was sorry I told my mom, and he told me to leave him alone and thanks for ruining his life. That following Sunday we had a meeting in the childrens church area. It was my mother, HIM, his fiance(then), and myself. They told me that they were going to go to the Court House and get married that day, and that I would sign over my baby to them to adopt. My mom said I would go in front of the church and tell them that I trapped HIM and that I would give my baby over to them since I am a single mother. My heart was beating fast, I was crying and my mother was screaming at me to do the right thing. How I had ruined this man's name and thank goodness his fiance was such a godly woman for standing by him. I kept saying I didn't trap him but no one was listening. His fiance looked at me in disgust and he wouldn't even look at me. Just kept rubbing her back, and kissing her hand. I told him I would think about it and let them know. Miss Shanice, I do not want to give my baby up but I don't want my baby to struggle because of me. I have a full time job right now but I live on campus. I don't want to be a single mom. He texted me this morning and told me that if I gave them the baby, he would convince my mother not to make me go in front of the church and him and his NOW WIFE would say they adopted from a family friend. I'm only 19, and the pressure is a lot from them but I don't want to lose my baby.
Dear Brittany,
First of all, you are such a strong young woman and you don't even know it yet! What you are NOT gonna do is go in front of that church and tell you business to NO ONE that is going to judge you off a made up ass story your mother put together. Everyone in that church has had sex before marriage and it's none of their business what you do. They do not have a heaven nor hell to put you in. There enough mess going on in the church. You did NOT trap him. I know you know this.
Let's list the things this shit head ass man did to you :
1. Kissed you
2. Confided personal relationship information to you
3. Told you he love you
4. Came into your room when he knew you were emotionally unstable to sex YOU
5.Hugged you, touched you, flirted WITH YOU
6. Visited you at college
7. Spent weekends with you
Do I really need to go on?
This man PREYED on you. No matter how cute you thought he was, from your emails, you knew it would be wrong to push yourself up on him and you did not. I applaud you. You did the right thing. Now on to this baby. This is your baby. There are so many single, young mothers out here going to school and making it. I'm not saying you don't need a man for shit, but what I am saying is baby you can raise your child on your own. Your school probably has a daycare and you already have a job. Get you some NICE assistant living situation, join a college mom group and strive for the best. I would NOT, and you will NOT, give your baby to this piece of shit ass couple. And you can tell them I said that. Even though your child is not here, you are a mother. That's why you are crying and stomach turning when someone sits in your face and tells you to give the baby you are carrying to them, who honestly don't give a shit about you or that baby. If they did care you would not be going to doctors appointments alone. Wouldn't "they" be checking up on you to see how you are feeling, if you need anything? Your own mother is behind half of this craziness as well. This is hard because we all love our mothers but you are going to have to deal with her from a distance until she starts living in the real world again. Your young, precious, naive, but a gentle sweet girl who is going through bullshit that you did not ask for. The only wrong you did, is fall for a mutha fucka who ain't shit. We have all done it. But what you are going to do, is make it out this storm with a precious baby, while standing on your OWN two feet, collecting that child support, moving on to a better life. Please don't give them your baby. It may sound like a good idea because you have nothing right now, but trust me a little faith and hard work goes a long way. I would tell them no, and then go tell the actually Pastor of your church what is going on. Print off those messages and show him. Regardless of what he says, you have advised the leader of the church of what is happening there. Tell your mother to get with it, or miss out on a precious grand child. Then tell his simple minded ass you'll see him in child support court. Email me back love, I am rooting for you :)
Shanice
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