I'm Pregnant by My Step Cousin

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Dear Shanice,

I will make this quick. I started dating this guy in high school and shortly found out that he was my step cousin. My mother had married his uncle. We continued to date for about 1 year until everyone in the family found out and forced us to break up. After graduation, we went off to the same college. Since we didn't really break up on bad terms and no one was around we started back dating. That was 1 year ago and now I am pregnant with his child. I do not feel bad about this because honestly, we aren't really related but I know my mother will be upset. Is there a certain we can tell our family without them getting mad? I am 3 months now and starting to show some, so I need to tell them. Holidays are coming up and it will be very awkward for my mom, but honestly we were dating before my mom married his uncle. We are going to move into an apartment together, finish school and raise our child together.

Thanks!

Sssssooooooooo, I'm not really sure how I should answer this. First off,would our mom be the baby's grandma/auntie? That's mmmmaaaddddd weird. So let's start from the beginning.

I don't fault you for dating him and not knowing you guys were related by marriage. BUT I do fault you both for continuing to date even after the marriage of your mother and his uncle. That's gross! Sorry, can't say it any other way. Although you are not "blood" related, you guys are still close like family. I have NEVER looked at one of my step cousins and thought YES GAWD, LET ME GET IN THEM PANTS! 0_o Nope, now that's not to say I don't think they are handsome men, but they are family. There is no easy way to tell your mom she is about to be a granny/aunt. Anytime someone is double something to me is just a no go. I don't want my child looking at me down the line like bih, you couldn't find someone else. Now you are pregnant and you might as well keep on with the show. People are going to talk and say negative things. What you don't have to worry about is your baby coming out with 6 hands and 8 eyes because you are not blood relatives. It's still gross in human moral standards. So just tell them girl. Skype them and say WE PREGNANT and hang up. Give them about 2 weeks to calm down and check back in. By then all the cursing is probably over with.

I hope you have a great pregnancy and health baby. Tell your cousin/boyfriend to ... and you know what .. make sure you are what he wants because men will just have sex with anything. Not calling you anything but girl .... we have both seen BUGLY girls like ... who got you pregnant looking like Whoopi Goldberg gums hunny no ma'am! Because I don't want you to come out looking like the fool once you have this baby and he has moved on. A piece of engagement finger jewelry is always a way to say " your a keeper baby."

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